Price: €249
Result preparation time: 72 hours
Number of participants: 2 people
Test format: joint test for two individuals
The Main Question
Do you both understand in the same way what constitutes fidelity, freedom, deception and infidelity in your relationship? After taking the test, you will learn which forms of infidelity each of you is prepared to accept, what each of you regards as betrayal and how closely your views on fidelity align.
One partner may consider sexually explicit correspondence, viewing explicit content or emotional intimacy with another person acceptable. For the other, the same actions may constitute a breach of the couple’s agreements, infidelity and a loss of trust.
The test compares the answers of both participants and shows where their sexual boundaries coincide, where contradictions are hidden and which differences may lead to serious conflict.
The test is a practical continuation of the MediaIEU article “Sex in 2050: Freedom Will Become the Norm and Fidelity a Term of the Contract”, which examines the transition from assumed fidelity to sexual boundaries agreed in advance.
Take the test together and find out whether your views coincide on fidelity, acceptable contact with other people, the obligation to disclose risks and the boundary between personal freedom and betrayal.
What the Test Assesses
The “Assessment of Sexual Boundary Compatibility and Understanding of Fidelity in a Couple” test will show what each partner considers infidelity, which forms of infidelity each is prepared to accept and which actions could destroy the relationship.
The test is not limited to sex with another person. It examines:
- kissing and intimate touching;
- sexually explicit correspondence;
- the exchange of explicit photographs;
- viewing and purchasing sexual content;
- private broadcasts;
- paid sexual services;
- emotional relationships with another person;
- communication with former partners;
- relationships with artificial intelligence;
- concealed expenditure;
- the risk of infection and the concealment of medical information.
People may live together for many years without ever directly discussing what each of them permits and what each prohibits.
- For one person, only sex constitutes infidelity.
- For another, infidelity may include a kiss, intimate correspondence, a secret meeting, payment for sexual content or sustained attention to another person.
- One partner may accept casual sex without feelings but regard a continuing outside relationship as betrayal.
- Another may consider any physical contact to be infidelity, regardless of whether feelings are involved.
The test will show whether you understand fidelity in the same way, which forms of infidelity each of you is prepared to accept and where your views diverge completely.
Each partner takes the test separately. The system then compares the answers and shows where your views coincide and where there is a substantial divergence capable of causing conflict.
What Sexual Boundaries Mean
Sexual boundaries define which actions a person permits within a relationship and which conditions they consider necessary for maintaining trust.
They do not give one partner the right to control another person’s body. Every adult independently makes decisions about their own body, sexual life and relationships.
The other partner, however, has an equal right to define the conditions under which they agree to continue the relationship.
Sexual boundaries are not limited to physical contact. They may also include:
- sexually explicit correspondence;
- the exchange of explicit photographs;
- private video broadcasts;
- meetings with other people;
- emotional intimacy;
- commercial sexual services;
- relationships with artificial intelligence;
- spending from the shared budget;
- the obligation to disclose other contacts;
- compliance with medical safety requirements.
Compatibility of sexual boundaries does not mean that both people must choose strict monogamy.
Two partners may permit relationships with other people and still have a high level of compatibility if they understand the rules in the same way, disclose what is happening honestly and comply with the agreed conditions.
At the same time, two people may regard themselves as completely monogamous yet have a low level of compatibility. One may permit flirting, explicit correspondence and paid content, while the other regards every one of these actions as infidelity.
The problem does not arise only from the action itself. It arises when one person considers the action acceptable while the other is certain that it breaches the terms of the relationship.
The test helps identify such differences before they develop into deception, loss of trust or the end of the relationship.
Understanding Fidelity
Fidelity is often treated as a condition that arises automatically when a serious relationship begins, a couple starts living together or a marriage is concluded.
In practice, two people may attach entirely different meanings to this word.
- For one partner, fidelity means not having physical sex with other people.
- For another, it also means avoiding sexually explicit correspondence, secret meetings, paid broadcasts and emotional attachment.
- Some people consider viewing explicit content acceptable but reject an ongoing subscription to material from a particular person.
- Others permit such a subscription but consider individual communication with the performer to be infidelity.
- Working on camera may be an ordinary commercial activity for one person and a breach of fidelity for their partner.
- Sex with artificial intelligence, intimate communication with a digital character or the use of a real person’s appearance may also be assessed very differently by the two partners.
The test does not establish a single correct definition of fidelity. It shows whether the views of both participants coincide and whether each knows what the other considers acceptable and what they consider infidelity.
How the Test Works for Two People
The test is intended for two adult participants. It includes two separate sets of 80 identical questions, producing a total of 160 answers from both participants.
Each partner independently answers one set. Both participants receive the same situations and the same answer options.
- The first participant answers the questions first.
- After the first set has been completed, the device is handed to the second participant.
- The second participant answers the same questions independently.
- After both sets have been completed, the system compares the answers.
The first participant’s answers are not shown to the second participant. Until the test has been completed, the participants should not discuss the questions or their selected answers.
This procedure is necessary so that each person answers independently, does not adjust their answers to the partner’s position and does not select the answer that appears most convenient or expected.
The result will show:
- the situations in which your answers coincide completely;
- where one partner permits an action only under certain conditions while the other considers it unacceptable;
- where one partner considers an action normal while the other regards it as infidelity or a reason to end the relationship.
The test is not reduced to a total score. Each situation is considered together with the other answers, including answers concerning agreements, money and the behaviour of both participants.
What the Test Examines
The test is based on Iv.Spolan’s model, “The Fundamental Law of Political Economy”. Four dimensions are used to compare the answers: Behavior, Choice, Demand and Money.
Each dimension is analysed separately for the first and second participants. The answers are then compared to show where the partners understand fidelity in the same way and where one permits something that the other considers infidelity.
Behavior
Behavior shows the participant’s attitude towards specific actions by their partner.
The questions examine:
- flirting, kissing, intimate touching and sensual dancing;
- casual sex and continuing sexual relationships with another person;
- sex with a former partner, friend, colleague or stranger;
- sexually explicit correspondence and the exchange of explicit photographs;
- viewing explicit content and participating in private broadcasts;
- working on camera and providing sexual services;
- sex-positive parties and group sex;
- sex while travelling and holiday romances;
- emotional and romantic relationships without physical sex;
- sexual communication with artificial intelligence;
- concealing contacts, deleting correspondence and lying;
- using protection and disclosing a medical risk.
The participant evaluates each situation in one of four ways:
- it is acceptable without prior discussion;
- its assessment depends on the circumstances and the couple’s rules;
- it is a breach requiring a serious discussion;
- it constitutes infidelity or another critical breach of the relationship.
The test therefore shows which actions each partner considers normal, which they permit only by prior agreement and which they regard as infidelity.
Choice
Choice shows which decisions the participant regards as an individual right and which decisions cannot be made without consulting the partner.
The test examines attitudes towards decisions to:
- exchange contact details with someone to whom the person feels sexually attracted;
- meet a former partner or colleague alone;
- have casual sex or choose a continuing sexual partner outside the couple;
- send intimate photographs or turn on the camera during a private broadcast;
- sell one’s own explicit content or provide paid sexual services;
- participate in group sex;
- install a dating application while travelling;
- choose a “don’t ask, don’t tell” rule;
- exchange passwords and continuously report one’s location;
- create an artificial sexual partner with the appearance of someone the person knows;
- propose changing the couple’s agreements before contact with another person;
- ask for permission for a specific sexual contact.
Medical safety is assessed separately, including the use of protection, the exchange of recent test results and the temporary suspension of sex within the couple after a risky contact.
The test shows whether the partners agree about which decisions a person may make independently and which require the other participant’s prior consent.
Demand
Demand shows which sexual and emotional needs are important to the participant and which ways of meeting them they permit within and outside the relationship.
The test examines the need to:
- receive flirting, compliments and sexual attention from other people;
- have casual or continuing sexual contact outside the couple;
- maintain intimate communication with a former partner or colleague;
- receive emotional support from another person;
- maintain a romantic relationship without physical sex;
- regularly view explicit content instead of having sex with the partner;
- communicate regularly with the same provider of paid sexual content;
- purchase sexually explicit correspondence, broadcasts and services;
- participate in group sex and make it a regular part of the relationship;
- have holiday romances;
- maintain a close friendship with someone who openly expresses sexual attraction towards them;
- replace intimacy within the couple with communication with artificial intelligence.
The test also examines attitudes towards a situation in which one partner demands sexual freedom for themselves while expecting complete fidelity from the other.
A separate question concerns the family: whether agreed sexual relationships outside the couple are acceptable if the person continues to fulfil all responsibilities towards the child and family.
The test shows which needs and ways of meeting them both partners consider acceptable, which require prior agreement and which may destroy the relationship.
Money
Money shows how expenditure, income and financial dependence affect the understanding of fidelity.
The test examines the partners’ attitudes towards expenditure on:
- gifts for a person with whom flirting or emotional intimacy is developing;
- erotic massage and commercial sexual services;
- paid sexually explicit correspondence and private broadcasts;
- subscriptions to explicit content;
- travel and meetings with other sexual or romantic partners;
- events involving group sex;
- an artificial sexual partner;
- protection, prevention and medical testing after contact outside the couple.
Attitudes towards personal and shared money are compared separately. One participant may believe that they have the right to spend personal funds independently. The other may regard the purchase of a sexual service itself as infidelity, regardless of the source of the money.
The test also examines concealed expenditure:
- secret payment for sexual services;
- concealed expenditure on travel and meetings;
- secret financial support for a former partner;
- deleting expenditure records from the family budget;
- refusing to disclose the amount spent on relationships outside the couple.
The test also examines income received from:
- selling explicit photographs and videos;
- paid individual communication;
- working on camera;
- providing sexual services to clients of any sex;
- using a different sexual persona or altered gender presentation in response to commercial demand;
- voluntary sexual contact in exchange for a bonus, promotion or additional income.
Attitudes towards a sexual relationship with an adult whom the partner supports financially are examined separately.
The test also considers a separate personal account and a pre-agreed spending limit for permitted contacts outside the couple.
The test shows where money itself becomes a cause of conflict and where expenditure and income reveal deception, double standards and breaches of the couple’s agreements.
Which Sexual Boundaries the Test Examines
The test covers physical, emotional, commercial and digital forms of sexual interaction.
It examines the following areas:
- kissing and intimate touching with other people;
- isolated and continuing sexual contacts;
- relationships with former partners;
- flirting and sexually explicit correspondence;
- sending and receiving explicit photographs;
- viewing and purchasing sexual content;
- paid private broadcasts and conversations;
- physical commercial sexual services;
- working on camera and selling one’s own sexual image;
- emotional intimacy with another person;
- intimate communication with artificial intelligence or a digital partner;
- the use of a real person’s appearance in a digital sexual interaction;
- the use of personal and shared money;
- the obligation to disclose other contacts;
- medical risks and protection of the partner’s health;
- the possibility of revising previous agreements;
- voluntary consent and the absence of pressure;
- the boundary between personal freedom, deception and betrayal.
The same attitude towards one area does not mean complete compatibility.
The partners may assess physical sex in the same way but hold opposing positions on emotional intimacy, paid content, digital partners or the obligation to disclose what has happened.
Each area is therefore analysed separately.
Honesty and the Obligation to Disclose
The principal difference between the partners may concern not the sexual action itself, but when and what information about it must be disclosed.
- One person permits contact with another person only after prior agreement.
- The second considers it sufficient to disclose what happened honestly at a later time.
- Some people consider certain actions acceptable without either prior agreement or subsequent disclosure.
If the partners have never discussed these conditions, each follows their own rules and may believe that they are not breaching anything.
The test examines attitudes towards:
- obtaining prior agreement for a contact;
- disclosing a contact after it has occurred;
- concealing sexual or emotional communication;
- deleting correspondence;
- admitting what happened only after evidence emerges;
- lying about the person, frequency or nature of the contacts;
- concealing expenditure;
- concealing a risk to the partner’s health.
A person may not consider a particular action to be infidelity but may regard a lie about it as a more serious breach. Another participant may believe that an honest admission changes nothing and that the action itself remains infidelity.
Comparison of the answers shows what damages each partner’s trust:
- sexual contact;
- an emotional relationship;
- the absence of prior agreement;
- lying and concealing information;
- secret expenditure;
- creating a health risk.
Voluntary Choice and the Absence of Coercion
The test examines situations in which a sexual decision is connected with money, professional advantage, a position of authority, persistent requests or financial dependence.
The participants assess the following situations:
- voluntary sex with a manager in exchange for a bonus or promotion when the person’s job is not at risk;
- paid sexual contact as a means of earning additional income;
- sex with a third person after persistent requests from the partner, when the person states that they were free to refuse;
- a voluntary sexual relationship with an adult whom the partner supports financially.
One participant may regard these actions as a person’s individual and voluntary choice. The other may perceive them as pressure, exploitation of dependence, infidelity or another serious breach of the relationship.
Even voluntary consent to sexual contact does not mean that the contact is automatically permitted under the couple’s rules.
The test shows whether the partners understand voluntariness, pressure and the influence of money or professional advantage on sexual decisions in the same way.
Health and Medical Risks
One person’s sexual decisions may directly affect the health of the other partner.
Medical safety therefore cannot be treated solely as a personal matter if the person continues to have sex within the couple.
The test examines attitudes towards:
- using barrier protection during sex with other people;
- exchanging recent medical test results before sexual contact;
- immediately disclosing unprotected contact;
- temporarily stopping sex within the couple until test results have been received;
- paying for protection, prevention and medical examinations from personal funds.
One partner may permit sexual contact with other people only if these conditions are observed. The other may consider such measures unnecessary or insufficient.
Even if sex with another person was permitted, breaching the agreed safety rules may constitute a separate and more serious breach of the relationship.
The test shows whether the participants understand medical responsibility and the obligation to protect each other’s health in the same way.
How Compatibility Is Determined
Each participant independently answers the same 80 questions. Once the test has been completed, the 160 answers are compared in pairs: the first participant’s answer is compared with the second participant’s answer to the same situation.
The comparison identifies the following types of matches and differences:
- Match — both participants assess the action in the same way and establish the same boundary for it.
- Conditional match — both participants permit the action but attach different conditions to it, such as prior agreement, subsequent disclosure, the use of personal money or compliance with medical safety requirements.
- Hidden contradiction — the partners use the same general definition for their relationship, such as “monogamy”, but their answers to specific situations reveal different rules.
- Critical divergence — one participant considers the action acceptable while the other regards it as infidelity, a serious breach of trust or grounds for ending the relationship.
Hidden contradictions are identified not by the words the participants use to describe their relationship, but by the combination of their answers to specific questions. Two people may regard themselves as monogamous but hold different views on flirting, sexually explicit correspondence, meetings with former partners, paid content, emotional intimacy or sexual contact with other people.
Internal contradictions in each participant’s answers are analysed separately.
A person may permit themselves an action that they consider unacceptable for their partner. They may demand prior agreement from the other participant but consider it sufficient to disclose their own contact only after it has occurred.
A participant may also demand complete honesty, access to information and compliance with medical safety requirements from the partner while claiming their own right to conceal contacts, expenditure or a resulting risk.
Such a difference reveals not only a mismatch between two people, but also a double standard within one participant’s position.
Compatibility is determined both from all 160 answers taken together and separately across the four dimensions: Behavior, Choice, Demand and Money.
What the Result Includes
The result shows how closely the participants’ sexual boundaries, rules of fidelity and behavioural requirements coincide.
After the test has been completed, all 160 answers are analysed individually and comparatively: 80 answers from the first participant and 80 answers from the second participant.
The analysis includes separate scores for the first and second participants across the four dimensions of Iv.Spolan’s model: Behavior, Choice, Demand and Money.
The Sector Balance Ratio (SBR) is also calculated. It shows how closely the neighbouring sectors are aligned: Behavior and Choice, Choice and Demand, Demand and Money, and Money and Behavior.
The participants receive:
- an overall indicator of sexual-boundary compatibility;
- a separate analysis of the first participant’s answers;
- a separate analysis of the second participant’s answers;
- an analysis of each participant’s Behavior, Choice, Demand and Money;
- a comparison of how the two partners understand fidelity;
- a list of boundaries that coincide completely;
- a list of boundaries that coincide conditionally;
- identification of hidden contradictions and critical divergences;
- an analysis of actions the participants consider acceptable, subject to prior agreement or subject to mandatory subsequent disclosure;
- identification of actions that each participant considers infidelity or grounds for ending the relationship;
- an analysis of attitudes towards physical sexual contact;
- an analysis of attitudes towards sexually explicit correspondence, the exchange of explicit photographs, paid content and private broadcasts;
- an analysis of attitudes towards commercial sexual services;
- an analysis of emotional and romantic boundaries;
- an analysis of attitudes towards artificial intelligence and digital sexual partners;
- an analysis of financial boundaries, expenditure, personal money and the shared budget;
- an analysis of requirements concerning prior agreement, honesty and subsequent disclosure;
- an assessment of attitudes towards medical responsibility and protection of the partner’s health;
- identification of double standards in the requirements applied to oneself and the other participant;
- the Sector Balance Ratio (SBR);
- personal conclusions for each participant;
- a basis for preparing an agreement on sexual boundaries and fidelity.
The result is not produced automatically from the total score alone.
All 160 answers are considered together. The analysis takes account of matches, conditional matches, critical divergences, recurring positions, internal contradictions, differences between requirements applied to oneself and the partner, disclosure rules, financial conditions and medical risks.
A large number of matches does not eliminate a single critical divergence. The partners may assess most situations in the same way but hold incompatible positions on one issue that one of them regards as an essential condition for continuing the relationship.
The result is prepared manually on the basis of both participants’ answers and calculations performed by the MediaIEU system.
The conclusion reflects the positions stated by the participants when taking the test. It does not confirm that a person always acts in accordance with their answers or that they disclosed all information about themselves.
What the Test Is Not
- The test does not determine whether a person is moral or immoral.
- The test does not establish a single correct model of sexual relationships.
- The test does not state that monogamy is better than an open relationship or that an open relationship is better than monogamy.
- The test does not give one participant the right to control the other person’s body, sexuality or private life.
- The test is not a test of actual fidelity, a lie detector or a means of proving infidelity.
- The test does not confirm or refute a specific sexual, emotional or commercial contact.
- The test does not determine sexual orientation, gender identity or the presence of a sexual disorder.
- The test is not a medical, psychiatric or psychological diagnosis.
- The test does not replace a doctor, psychologist, psychotherapist, sexologist, couples counsellor, lawyer or safety specialist.
- The test does not decide whether the relationship should continue or end.
- The test does not guarantee that the partners will accept the same conditions after receiving the result.
The purpose of the test is to show matches and differences in the sexual boundaries stated by the two participants. These differences cannot be eliminated simply by relabelling behaviour, concealing information or refusing to discuss it.
Where physical violence, threats, sexual coercion, stalking, restriction of freedom or danger to life is present, the test must not be used as a substitute for contacting the appropriate specialists and protection services.
Who the Test Is For
The test is intended for two adults who are in a romantic or family relationship and wish to define the boundaries of fidelity precisely.
It is suitable for spouses, registered partners, people in continuing relationships without formal marriage and partners who live separately.
The test may be used by couples who have chosen:
- monogamy;
- monogamy with separately agreed exceptions;
- an open relationship with established rules.
The test may be useful when the participants:
- have never discussed their sexual boundaries in detail;
- understand the word “infidelity” differently;
- are uncertain whether sexually explicit correspondence constitutes a breach;
- hold different views on explicit content;
- disagree about paid private broadcasts or commercial sexual services;
- perceive emotional intimacy with another person differently;
- have not established rules for communication and meetings with former partners;
- have encountered deleted correspondence, concealed meetings or lies about contacts;
- have not agreed rules for the use of personal and shared money;
- hold different views on digital partners and sexual communication with artificial intelligence;
- have not defined the obligation to obtain prior agreement for other contacts or disclose them afterwards;
- have experienced a breach of trust;
- are reconsidering their previous relationship model;
- are planning a life together, marriage or the birth of a child;
- wish to formulate a clear agreement on sexual boundaries and fidelity.
The test is also suitable for couples who do not have an open conflict.
The absence of conflict does not always mean that the partners’ boundaries coincide. Sometimes a dispute has not yet arisen only because the partners have not encountered a particular situation or do not know each other’s position.
The assessment makes it possible to identify differences before they lead to deception, a medical risk, financial conflict or a breakdown of trust.
Conclusion
Fidelity is not automatically guaranteed by entering a relationship, living together or having a marriage certificate.
It exists when two people understand the accepted conditions in the same way and comply with them.
The same action may represent personal freedom for one partner and betrayal for the other. Without a direct conversation, each person continues to regard their own definition of fidelity as obvious and binding on the other participant.
The “Assessment of Sexual Boundary Compatibility and Understanding of Fidelity in a Couple” test helps replace assumed rules with specific and understandable conditions.
It shows where the partners’ boundaries coincide, which differences can be agreed and where fundamental contradictions exist.
The result contains a separate analysis of each participant, a comparative assessment of the couple, critical areas of incompatibility and a basis for an agreement on sexual boundaries and fidelity.
The principal purpose of the test is not to restrict a person’s freedom, but to distinguish voluntarily agreed freedom from deception, concealed risk and a breach of trust.
Terms of This Test
The “Assessment of Sexual Boundary Compatibility and Understanding of Fidelity in a Couple” is a joint test for two adult natural persons.
The test is intended for exactly two participants. It is not an individual, group, corporate or state test.
Each participant answers a separate set of 80 identical questions. The test therefore contains 80 questions and a total of 160 answers from the two participants.
The first participant answers their own set of questions first. After the first set has been completed, the second participant answers a separate set containing the same 80 questions.
The first participant’s answers are not shown to the second participant while the test is being taken.
Each person’s answers are stored and analysed separately. A comparative analysis of the two sets is then conducted.
The price of the test is €249.
The result is prepared within 72 hours after full payment and all answers from both participants have been received.
The result is provided in digital format to the email address supplied when taking the test.
The result is prepared on the basis of both participants’ answers, calculations across the four dimensions of Iv.Spolan’s model, “The Fundamental Law of Political Economy”, and an individual analytical review.
Placing an order, paying for the test, taking the test or submitting answers constitutes acceptance of the general MediaIEU terms governing the ordering, payment, completion and receipt of test results.
General Testing Terms
The terms stated above apply only to the “Assessment of Sexual Boundary Compatibility and Understanding of Fidelity in a Couple” test and specify its format, price, result preparation time, number of participants and completion procedure.
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