Price: €249
Result preparation time: 72 hours
Number of participants: 2 people
Test format: joint test for two individuals
Do conflicts constantly arise in your relationship, but each of you understands their causes differently?
This test will compare the answers of two participants and reveal the situations in which their behaviour, decisions, expectations, needs and financial actions differ. The result will show the main causes of recurring conflicts and what each participant needs to change to reduce tension and improve the relationship.
Take the test together and find out what prevents you from understanding one another, making agreed decisions and avoiding conflict situations.
What the test assesses
The test “Relationship Conflict Diagnosis Between Two People” is designed to identify the causes of conflicts, recurring disagreements and tension in a relationship between two people.
The test analyses not only individual arguments and their visible triggers. It examines the behaviour of each participant, the way decisions are made, expectations within the relationship, actual needs, the distribution of money, responsibilities, time and accountability, and each person’s right to influence joint decisions.
A specific situation may appear to be the cause of a conflict: being late, making a purchase, carrying out a household responsibility, communicating with other people, work, leisure, a trip, lack of attention or a decision made without prior agreement. However, the same conflict often returns in different circumstances because its main cause lies deeper than the visible trigger.
One person may believe that the problem is caused by a lack of attention. The other may experience the same situation as control, pressure or a restriction of personal space. One participant may expect a joint decision, while the other may consider the matter to be their personal responsibility.
The test helps identify exactly where the perceptions, expectations and actions of the two people diverge, why an ordinary difference develops into a conflict and which situations trigger a recurring reaction.
The main purpose of the test is to identify the actual causes of conflicts, separate them from visible triggers and show which changes may reduce tension within the relationship.
The result is not based solely on the account of one participant. The answers of both people are analysed separately and then compared.
What conflict diagnosis means
Conflict diagnosis does not mean looking for someone to blame.
Its purpose is to identify the mechanism that creates, maintains or intensifies tension between the two participants.
Conflict may arise from different expectations, incompatible needs, insufficient information, broken agreements, financial pressure, accumulated fatigue, the influence of other people, an unequal distribution of responsibilities or differences in the way decisions are made.
In some relationships, both people understand the causes of the problem but are unable to change their habitual pattern of behaviour. In other relationships, each participant sees only the reaction of the other person and does not recognise their own role in the development of the conflict.
One participant may withdraw and avoid the conversation. The other may increase the pressure because they interpret the silence as indifference. The more strongly one person demands an answer, the more the other person distances themselves. As a result, the conflict begins to sustain itself.
Another situation is also possible. One person makes decisions independently because they consider themselves more responsible or experienced. The other person experiences this as exclusion from the relationship and a loss of the right to influence their shared life.
The diagnosis helps establish which actions trigger the conflict, how each person responds to tension and why the original problem gradually develops into a more serious confrontation.
How the test for two people is completed
The test is intended for two participants and consists of 160 questions in total.
Each person answers their own block of 80 questions. The first participant completes their block before the second participant begins.
The participants do not answer the questions at the same time and should not discuss specific answers while completing the test.
This order is necessary so that each person describes their own perception of the relationship instead of adjusting their answers to the reaction of the other participant.
The answers of the first and second participants are stored separately. After both blocks have been completed, the results are compared.
The analysis identifies not only similarities and differences between the answers, but also the reasons behind those differences. It considers which situations each participant regards as conflict situations, how they assess their own behaviour, which actions they expect from the other person and where they place the main responsibility for the problem.
The test examines the relationship as an interaction between two people. The result is therefore not based solely on the answers of one participant and is not reduced to a simple total score.
What is examined in the test
The test consists of 160 questions and examines the relationship through four areas of the model of Iv.Spolan: Behaviour, Choice, Demand and Money.
Each area is analysed separately for the first and second participants. The results are then compared in order to identify similarities, differences, sector gaps and recurring conflict mechanisms.
Behaviour
Behaviour shows how each participant acts before a conflict, during a conflict and after it.
The test examines whether a person is able to raise an issue calmly, listen to the position of the other participant, acknowledge their own mistake, respect an agreement and return to the conversation after a period of emotional tension.
It also analyses which reactions are used when disagreement occurs: conversation, silence, leaving, ignoring, accusation, pressure, raising one’s voice, sarcasm, demonstrative behaviour, attempts to punish, refusal of contact or involving other people to support one side.
The test separately examines whether a person accumulates dissatisfaction, returns to previous conflicts, uses the past mistakes of the other participant in new arguments and is able to separate the current situation from their overall attitude towards that person.
The test helps identify which actions reduce conflict and which actions move it to a higher level of tension.
Behaviour after an argument is also considered. One person may quickly regard the conflict as finished, while the other continues to experience tension, distrust or a sense of injustice for a long time.
This difference often leads to a new conflict because one participant expects a return to ordinary life, while the other believes that the problem has remained unresolved.
Choice
Choice shows how two people make personal and joint decisions.
The test examines which matters are discussed jointly, who more often makes the final decision, how fully the position of the other participant is taken into account and whether there is a genuine possibility of rejecting the proposed option.
The influence of family, friends, work, social expectations, previous experience and fear of losing the relationship is also analysed.
One person may agree outwardly while not accepting the decision internally. Over time, such agreement may turn into irritation, passive resistance or accusations against the other participant.
The other person may consider the decision to be joint, although the second participant actually agreed only to end the argument.
The test helps determine whether decisions are genuinely joint, whether each participant is able to express disagreement openly and whether both people have an equal right to influence their shared life.
The ability to reconsider a decision when circumstances change is also examined. In some relationships, the conflict is maintained not by the original choice itself, but by a refusal to acknowledge that the previous agreement no longer corresponds to the actual situation.
Demand
Demand shows what each participant expects from the relationship and which needs they consider most important.
The test examines the need for attention, emotional contact, personal space, safety, sexual intimacy, time together, support, respect, recognition, stability and freedom.
One person may expect constant contact and shared leisure time. The other may need more time alone, without communication or the need to explain every action.
One participant may regard practical help, carrying out responsibilities and financial support as expressions of love. The other may expect conversation, emotional involvement, physical affection and shared experiences.
Conflict arises not only because care is absent, but also because the two people understand differently how that care should be expressed.
The test helps identify the actual needs of each participant, separate them from habitual demands and establish which expectations have been agreed and which exist only in the mind of one person.
It also examines whether a participant is able to speak directly about a need or expects the other person to understand it without being told.
An unexpressed expectation often develops into resentment, even though the other participant may not have known that such an expectation existed.
Money
Money shows how financial decisions, expenses and material obligations affect the relationship.
The test examines the distribution of shared and personal expenses, access to information about income, the existence of debts, loans, savings, financial obligations towards relatives and each participant’s attitude towards maintaining a financial reserve.
It analyses who pays the main expenses, who makes decisions about major purchases, whether restrictions are placed on personal spending and whether one participant considers their financial contribution to be undervalued.
Financial conflict may arise even when income is sufficient. The cause is not only the amount of money, but also different understandings of fair distribution, security, risk and the right to manage part of the money independently.
One person may seek to save money and restrict current spending. The other may believe that money should be used to improve quality of life in the present.
One participant may perceive financial help as an expression of care. The other may experience it as dependence, control or an obligation to follow the decisions of the person who contributes more money.
The test helps determine whether the financial issue is an independent cause of conflict or whether money is being used to express a struggle for influence, recognition, security and the right to make decisions.
External causes of conflicts
Not every conflict develops solely within the relationship.
The interaction between two people may be affected by work, loss of income, relocation, illness, lack of time, caring for children or relatives, housing conditions, migration, a change of country of residence and prolonged uncertainty.
One participant may be under significant pressure from external circumstances and transfer that tension into the relationship. The other participant may interpret the change in behaviour as a loss of interest, respect or closeness.
The test considers the extent to which the conflict is connected with the actions of the participants and the extent to which it is intensified by circumstances that one or both people cannot change quickly.
The influence of relatives, friends, former partners, colleagues, social media and social expectations is also analysed.
The opinions of other people may support one participant while making direct communication between the two people more difficult.
The diagnosis helps separate an internal relationship problem from pressure created by external circumstances and identify which factors must be considered when looking for a solution.
Recurring conflicts
Particular attention is given to conflicts that regularly arise according to a similar pattern.
The visible trigger may change, but the sequence of actions remains the same. One person expresses dissatisfaction, the other becomes defensive, the first increases the pressure, the second distances themselves, after which both people regard the behaviour of the other person as the main cause of the problem.
A recurring conflict shows that the participants are reacting not only to the current situation. A stable sequence of actions has already developed within the relationship.
The test helps identify the starting point of this sequence, the actions of each participant and the moment when an ordinary difference turns into a conflict.
It also examines whether previous conflicts were genuinely resolved or only temporarily stopped.
Unspoken complaints, broken promises and the absence of a clear solution may remain within the relationship and reappear in new situations.
The result shows which conflicts have separate causes and which are continuations of the same unresolved problem.
What the result shows
The test result shows the main causes of conflicts between the two participants and the mechanism through which tension develops.
The analysis includes separate indicators for the first and second participants across four areas: Behaviour, Choice, Demand and Money.
A comparative analysis of the answers is also carried out, and the Sector Balance Ratio (SBR) is calculated.
The result helps reveal:
- which situations most frequently trigger conflict;
- how each participant perceives the causes of the problem;
- where the positions of the two people coincide;
- where substantial differences in perception exist;
- which actions intensify tension;
- which expectations were not agreed;
- how the right to make decisions is distributed;
- how consistently agreements are respected;
- how financial matters affect the relationship;
- what role personal space plays;
- which conflicts repeat according to the same pattern;
- which problems are connected with external circumstances;
- what each participant can change in their own behaviour;
- which matters require joint reconsideration.
The result is not generated automatically solely on the basis of the total score.
All 160 answers are considered together. Similarities, contradictions, recurring patterns of behaviour, differences in expectations and sector gaps between the two participants are taken into account.
The answers of each person and their connection with the answers of the other participant are assessed separately.
On the basis of the analysis, a conclusion is provided regarding the main causes of the conflicts, the role of each participant and possible directions for changing the relationship.
What is included in the result
After the test has been completed, an individual and comparative analysis of all 160 answers is carried out.
The participants receive:
- an overall review of the state of the relationship;
- a separate analysis of the answers of the first participant;
- a separate analysis of the answers of the second participant;
- an analysis of each participant’s Behaviour;
- an analysis of each participant’s Choice;
- an analysis of each participant’s Demand;
- an analysis of each participant’s Money sector;
- a comparison of how the relationship is perceived by the two people;
- identification of the main causes of conflicts;
- identification of recurring conflict patterns;
- an analysis of the distribution of responsibility and duties;
- an assessment of how agreements are respected;
- an analysis of differences in needs and expectations;
- an assessment of the influence of money on the relationship;
- the Sector Balance Ratio (SBR);
- identification of external sources of tension;
- a description of actions that intensify conflict;
- a description of actions that may reduce conflict;
- personal conclusions for each participant;
- general directions for changing the relationship.
The result is prepared manually on the basis of the answers of both participants and calculations performed by the MediaIEU system.
What the test is not
The test does not identify a person to blame and does not divide the participants into the person who is right and the person who is wrong.
The test does not determine who is a good or bad partner, or who is a strong or weak person.
The test does not make a decision about whether the relationship should continue or end.
The test is not a medical, psychiatric or psychological diagnosis.
The test does not establish the presence of a mental disorder, dependency, abuse or any other medical or legal condition.
The test does not replace a psychologist, psychotherapist, relationship counsellor, doctor, lawyer, mediator or safety specialist.
The test does not guarantee that conflicts will automatically stop after the result has been received.
Changes within the relationship depend on the extent to which both participants are prepared to consider the findings, reconsider their own actions and respect new agreements.
Where physical violence, threats, coercion, stalking, restriction of freedom or danger to life is present, the test must not be used as a substitute for contacting the appropriate specialists and protection services.
The purpose of the test is to provide a systemic analysis of the relationship through Behaviour, Choice, Demand and Money, and to identify the causes of conflicts and the mechanisms through which they recur.
Who this test is for
The test is suitable for two people who are in a relationship and regularly experience conflicts, tension or misunderstanding.
It may be used by spouses, partners, family members or two people whose relationship is highly important to their shared life.
The test may be useful when the participants:
- regularly argue for the same reasons;
- assess the causes of conflicts differently;
- are unable to discuss difficult matters calmly;
- do not understand each other’s expectations;
- experience conflicts because of money;
- are unable to agree on responsibilities;
- have different attitudes towards personal space;
- do not trust each other to respect agreements;
- experience interference from relatives;
- are unable to make a joint decision;
- return to previous complaints;
- experience tension after relocation or a change in income;
- believe that the other person does not listen to them;
- seek to understand their own role in the development of the conflict;
- are prepared to answer the questions separately and receive a comparative result.
The test is also suitable for two people who are not in constant open conflict but notice a gradual increase in distance, irritation, silence or distrust.
The diagnosis makes it possible to identify the problem before tension becomes a permanent part of the relationship.
Conclusion
A conflict between two people rarely consists of only one action or one phrase.
It is usually formed through a sequence of reactions, expectations, decisions and accumulated complaints.
One participant may believe that they are protecting the relationship, while the other perceives their actions as control. One person may try to end an argument through silence, while the other interprets the silence as punishment or indifference.
Without comparing the two positions, each person continues to see only their own part of the situation.
The test “Relationship Conflict Diagnosis Between Two People” helps examine the relationship as a single system of interaction.
It shows where the conflict begins, how it develops, which actions maintain it and why the same problems recur.
The result contains not only an overall conclusion, but also a separate analysis of each participant, a comparative picture of the relationship, the main sector gaps and possible directions for change.
The main purpose of the test is not to find a person to blame, but to understand the actual conflict mechanism and the role of each person in its development or resolution.
Conditions of this test
The test “Relationship Conflict Diagnosis Between Two People” is a joint test for two individuals.
The test is intended for exactly two participants.
The test is not designed for individual, group, corporate or state-level testing.
The test consists of 160 questions in total.
The first participant answers their own block of 80 questions. After the first block has been completed, the second participant answers a separate block of 80 questions.
The answers of each participant are stored and analysed separately. A comparative analysis of both blocks is then carried out.
The price of the test is €249.
The result preparation time is 72 hours after payment and all answers from both participants have been received.
The result is provided in digital format to the email address specified when completing the test.
The result is prepared on the basis of the answers of both participants, calculations across the four areas of the model of Iv.Spolan and an individual analytical review.
Placing an order, paying for the test, completing the test or submitting answers constitutes acceptance of the general MediaIEU terms governing the ordering, payment, completion and receipt of test results.
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